Sunday, December 3, 2017

A few quotes from Life of Pi!

Life of Pi
          This is one of my favourite movies... I prefer it above the original novel, since the book in places gets boring describing the details of survival at the sea. I came across some lovely quotes with beautiful background from the movie, on pin interest & google images...

For many years this quote seemed so personal ... though now it doesn't seem to be so, both, because I have learned the art of one sided closure to unsaid goodbye's and move on, and also because a lot of people have come back to offer their pending good byes wrapped in apologies.
But now, I have to help others suffering with such 'unfinished business' to give a closure. So it still remains important.

A lot of people keep missing their 'not so loving, loved ones' ...

 ... though some relationships make us less complete, more wounded, than we were in the first place... they change us forever, in not very nice ways ... for 'hurt people, hurt people! :(


And many people find their ultimate source of strength to bounce back in a deep subjective spirituality... even after personal struggles with their own image of God, s/he/it is the one presence supporting all, at all times.

(For some more background, check out this article)

Grief ... process!

Last few months I have come across so many people struggling with grief,  for losses which sometimes were as permanent as caused by death of a loved one (in my own sessions, or that of my students). Many times there were a series of losses. And if you look deeply, even death, not just represents loss of a person in physical body, but also intangible losses... of love, a special connection, a sense of meaning in life ... etc

People differ in how they move on in their lives, how they hold back the emotions left behind and invest it in something else, something new. They also differ in terms of continuing relationship with the loved one, in their heart. The process is very individual. 
It sometimes looks as if the loss of most ideal relationships are the hardest... I had people grieving for their ideal spouse, ideal mother, ideal father. But, I also noticed that these were people who were solely dependent on this one relationship for meeting all their emotional and psychological needs. 

We often live with the myth of ideal relationships, when they do not meet our needs we remain unhappy. When they meet all our needs, we either get bored, or too dependent and later struggle when these relationships get over. 
So in the end... all paths seems to be leading to suffering... isn't it?

What is the solution? Stop loving? 

Or love, inspite of time and space?

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

If & When you come ... or shall I let it go...

Suddenly remembered an old post with this beautiful poem of Maya Angelou ...

When You Come

When you come to me, unbidden,

Beckoning me
To long ago rooms, 
Where memories lie. 

Offering me, as to a child, an attic,
Gatherings of days too few.
Baubles of stolen kisses.
Trinkets of borrowed loves.
Trunks of secret words,



Came across another similarly beautiful poem by Audre Lorde ... 

If You Come Softly

If you come as
As the wind within
the trees
You may hear what
I hear
See what sorrow

If you come as
As threading dew
I will take you gladly
Nor ask more of 

You may sit beside
Silent as a breath
Only those who stay
Shall remember 

And if you come I
will be silent
Nor speak harsh
words to you.
I will not ask you
why now.
Or how, or what you

We shall sit here,
Beneath two
different years
And the rich
between us
Shall drink our


And then I found this one from EE Cummings...  as I work on a similarly themed research presentation ... so apt! :)

Let It Go

let it go - the
smashed word broken
open vow or
the oath cracked length
wise-let it go it
was sworn to

let them go - the
truthful liars and
the false fair friends
and the boths and 
neithers - you must let them go they
were born
to go

let all go - the
big small middling
tall bigger really
the biggest and all
things-let all go

so comes love