For a long time these poems were painted and pasted on my wall.
Earlier I used to believe in the first poem more and now i believe in the 2nd poem more. I think it also depends upon what stage one is going through in life. (All my friends too had their preferences).
(I think i picked up both from the famous and amazing book 'the road less travelled' Scott Peck http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M._Scott_Peck
One should check this one out...
Gestalt Prayer - Fritz Perls
I do my things and you do your things
I am not in this world to
live up to your expectations,
and you are not in this world to
live up to mine.
You are you
and I am I
and if by chance we find each other,
It can't be helped.
(These lines expresses very forcibly the human need for independence and self expression. I must have my own thoughts and feelings and I must assert my right to express them freely. I must make my own choices and be able to live by them...
... but psychologist Walter Tubbs supplement that true human fulfillment is found only in relationships of love; the truth begins with two.)
Beyond Perl -Walter Tubbs
If I just do my things and you do yours
We stand in danger of losing each other
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations;
But I'm in this world to confirm you;
as a unique human being.
And to be confirmed by you.
We are fully ourselves only in relation to each other
The I detached from a Thou
I do not find you by chance
I find you by an active life
of reaching out.
Rather than passively letting things happen to me.
I can act intentionally to make them
I must begin with myself, true;
But i must not end with myself;
The truth begins with two.